What if the Hokey Pokey IS what it's all About???

Random Ramblings + a word on DORKS!

When you break up with a significant other, friends' reactions are often to the effect of, "Ooooooooh, i'm so sooorry, how are you doooooing?" I appreciate the concern, but I often feel compelled to present the less appreciated side of big transitions or just emotionally impactful situations, which is that they tend to inspire extremes of happiness as well as sadness.

For the past half week since Suraj and I broke up, I've found myself primed for not only more teary moments that usual, but also more delight in the small opportunities for joy (the sun reflecting off the water as i drive over the floating bridge, the smile from an anonymous staff member at the hospital, my sister's glowing pre-wedding state).

Additionally, i would even venture to say there is a self-"honeymoon period" that occurrs after a break-up, where you feel more energized and empowered...it's hard to put my finger on why this happens...i think perhaps part of it comes from relieving the burden of trying to force a relationship that is starting to lose it's steam.

In my particular case, Suraj and I are lucky because we decided to quit when the relationship was still fairly good - this leaves me with no bitterness or resentment towards him. Also, it's helpful for both of us that we are completely disinterested in analyzing the relationship or questioning anything about the break-up. It was very simple: we felt it was running it's course and it was time to end, period (due partially to internal factors as well as external ones, such as his desire to travel and possibly move away), but we still love each other and see no reason not to attempt a transition into a healthy friendship.

Perhaps it's the aforementioned theory's effects, but when i read the following, i was absolutely in hysterics; it's the result from a silly online survey proporting to designate someone's degree of "dorkiness." Check out my result:

"There is basically no hope for you. You are the guy/girl that is constantly laughing at yourself. In fact, you’re probably doing it right now. You can’t listen to someone in conversation without trying to work over what they are saying in your head to come up with some sort of witty comment or a way to relate it to real life situations, sit coms or a movie you’ve seen at least 35 times.

You enjoy practicing responses to seem spontaneous and quirky, but the levels of effort and awareness of your own awkwardness are off the chart which places you in the Full-on end of the Dork Spectrum. I’d say that you should think more about what you say before you say it, but you’d probably just be thinking of something witty to say and not really listen anyway. My best advice is to find someone who is just as Dorky as you and hold on to them. You will never find a better match than with another Full-on."

YES! Say it loud, I'm a dork and proud :) | posted by Cheryl, 3/16/2006 12:14:00 PM